Why is this happening to me…again?

When we see repeated circumstances and situations in our lives, it is time to consider what were constants in all of them. I learned that if I refused to realise that I am the problem, the repetition persists wherever I may be, be it a new job, new neighbourhood, new community, even new country. This keeps me stuck. Often times, pride and ego is the main culprit. We don’t like to be told or shown that we are the problem, the weak link. We prefer to live in denial and put the blame on other people and the particular circumstances. Unfortunately, the same kind of problem will surface again. And again. And again. Until, of course, we learn from it and change.…

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Find a Good Teacher

Go find a good teacher. By that, I don’t mean a teacher in the classroom. I firmly believe that when the student in ready, the teacher will appear. So, it is vital to have the willingness and humbleness to learn, under all sorts of circumstances. You may like some of these circumstances, you may hate them. But you can learn from them nonetheless. When I say, “Find a good teacher,” I mean go find yourself a good mentor who can guide you, shape you, point you in the right direction, and open doors for you. No, a mentor is not a shortcut. S/he is a person who has been there and done that, and know your situation through and through. Above all, s/he know what it’ll take you to go from point A to point B. Still, you have to walk the path, traverse the road. And by doing so, you will eventually be ready to be someone else’s teacher…

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The Speed of Trust

Last month, a neighbour, let’s call him “S”, a few doors away went to Canada for an extended vacation. I don’t know this neighbour but I know another neighbour, let’s call her “K”, who lives opposite him. S has a small dog (I’m not sure the breed) and it needed care while he is away for a month or so. K graciously agreed to the assignment. After all, feeding the dog once a day shouldn’t be much trouble. And it’ll be fun for the kids also. So, K and her family visited the dog once every evening to give it dinner and top up its water supply. After a while, the dog started to give┬áthem longing looks and prolonged yelps at night. I know because I could hear the barking at night. So, K thought that it’ll be a good idea to bring the dog out for walks every evening after its meal. Her children were delighted! So did the…

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